Mother seeks help as husband struggles with feelings towards their sons

A mother expresses concern about her husband, Gus, who has a strong dislike for their two sons. The older son has moved out, while the younger son still seeks a relationship with Gus. The mother feels overwhelmed and seeks advice. The advice suggests focusing on supporting the children rather than trying to change Gus. It emphasizes the importance of counseling for the mother and her sons to help them cope with the situation and establish healthy boundaries. In a separate letter, a woman feels drained by a friend's constant last-minute requests for help. She is advised to set firmer boundaries by saying no, while still expressing her desire to support the friendship.